Loving someone who doesn’t love you: how to stop?
Written by: Loris Vitry (holistic coach)
Validated by: Cathy Maillot (Osteopath)
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- 1 Don’t force things and accept reality
- 2 Distance yourself from the person and turn your attention elsewhere
- 3 Get closer to people who have been through the same situation
- 4 Do not compress your feelings and escape into activities
- 5 Don’t let this failure ruin your life and get rid of the person’s memories
Love is a very strong feeling in humans.
It is a feeling of great attachment and affection towards another person that prompts you to seek to bond and relate to the person concerned.
However, there may be times when this feeling is not shared by both people.
So what if you feel love for someone who feels nothing in return?
Better, how do you stop loving someone who doesn’t love you?
This article will expand on this question to give you answers so that you can break this bad habit.
Don’t force things and accept reality
Being aware of the situation is essential in order not to fall into stress.
You have to come to terms with the fact that the person doesn’t like you.
Having this mindset will make it easier for you to stop harboring hope and projecting yourself into the future with this person.
Realize in your mind that that person you desire so much does not belong to you and that they are free to love you back or not.
Plus, all of this will allow you to let go, turn the page, and take back control of your life.
Indeed, you could become bitter, stressed (e) and even aggressive towards those around you as soon as you realize that your feelings are not mutual.
Distance yourself from the person and turn your attention elsewhere
It’s okay to always want to be with the person you love and to want to spend every moment of your day with them.
But it is important for you to create some distance with the person when you find that they don’t like you.
For example, if you used to write or call several times in the same day, you might stop writing.
Stop trying to get in touch with the person in question.
This is a good start to stop thinking about the person all the time.
Another trick to doing this is to stop talking about the person.
In fact, talking about the person constantly is a way to stay in these emotions which remind you of what you are feeling.
But the person does not like you very much.
This will allow you to no longer see this person as an ideal.
Also, taking your distance will allow you to see the situation in a different way.
Take an outside look at your relationship with the person.
You will become more aware of the situation and it will be easier for you to come to terms with this reality.
Get closer to people who have been through the same situation
Very often, we take comfort in knowing that we are not alone in certain situations.
However, what makes this point so important is that you can benefit from the experience and advice of others.
Like nice words of comfort, advice from these people will help you better understand the situation.
They can make you see things from an angle that you didn’t see.
Plus, they can be shoulders you can cry on.
In addition to giving you advice, these people will listen to you and you will be relieved.
Do not compress your feelings and escape into activities
Know that it is quite normal to feel sad and even to cry when you are in this kind of situation.
So don’t try to suppress your emotions.
Some scientific research shows that such behavior will not end your problem.
On the contrary, it will only make matters worse.
So take some time for yourself and let go.
This therapy will allow you to accept that the person you love is not yours.
Besides that, you can also find a solution to your problem by means of another trick.
Earlier we alluded to the fact that you need to turn your attention elsewhere.
On a more practical level, you could indulge in activities that will make you feel fulfilled.
Sports activities often have this asset that they allow you to relax, unwind and even get away from your problems.
This way you will get used to thinking about the person less.
In addition to exercise, there are many other activities that can help you relax and calm your mind from the stress that unrequited love can cause.
Among others, we can cite: yoga, meditation, etc.
Don’t let this failure ruin your life and get rid of the person’s memories
Failures in romantic relationships can have negative effects on the people involved.
You can come to develop a negative frame of mind about love in general.
This can make you pessimistic and cause you to no longer trust others and even resent the person concerned.
Make it trivial.
What about the memories you have of the person?
One of the important phases of this therapy is to get rid of the effects that will make you think of the person.
A photo, a message, a CD, etc. are all things that could keep you trapped in this situation.
You will keep thinking about her over and over again as these effects make you feel sad because you are thinking about the person.
Above all, remember that you have to move on and live your life, because these are things that can happen.
Moreover, it results from our analysis that the fact of realizing that the feelings which you carry to a person are not reciprocal can make you sad.
You might lose your taste for life by resenting the whole world.
You have to accept the situation and move on.
Don’t stress about it, because it can happen.
The magic potion to turn the page can be found in the tips and advice listed above.
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