How to love yourself in order to love the other?
Written by: Loris Vitry (holistic coach)
Validated by: Cathy Maillot (Osteopath)
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Many people are longing to show love for their neighbor.
But very few do.
Why is that ?
The reason is very simple.
We only give what we have or no one can give to others what they already do not have themselves.
Before showing love around you, you must first learn to love yourself.
Learning to love yourself is not about being selfish or individualistic.
What then is loving yourself?
How do you go about doing this?
Find out all the answers in this article.
Loving yourself: what should you understand?
We’ve all been dealing with narcissists, self-obsessed people.
This is the reason why loving yourself is very quickly associated with these kinds of people.
But it is not.
Learning to love yourself is part of our own development as a human being.
This is no way to flatter your ego.
On the contrary, it contributes to self-realization.
To love yourself is to be in tune with your true nature.
Identify and accept the discovery of your own nature (good or bad).
Loving yourself: why is it necessary?
Life is made of everything.
There are times when you question yourself.
We begin to doubt his qualities and we are tempted to agree with others.
By having love for yourself, you don’t give in to circumstantial dissonant voices.
Your uniqueness should prioritize over the events you go through in your life.
If you are looking for solutions while reading these lines, it is certainly because you are feeling profound discomfort.
You must learn to love yourself because your coming to earth is perfectly desired.
There is no such thing as chance in life.
There are only dates.
Perhaps you have learned that you were born out of rape or that your parents wanted to terminate your pregnancy and you find it difficult to realize that you have your life.
Learning to love yourself is the best way to enjoy this life that you have inherited.
Even though your existence was not programmed by men (your parents), God the creator of all moving beings desired you.
Another reason why you have to love yourself is your right to flourish, to realize yourself.
Being successful in life takes a lot from yourself.
It’s no accident.
You will meet people who are ready to crush you morally to achieve their goals.
If you don’t have your reservoir of self-love filled, you are going to give in to adversity every time.
Also, loving yourself allows you to know how to appreciate others at their true value.
Once you understand the importance of self-love and the benefits that come with it, you will be less tempted to put others down.
You will understand that others are also valuable and need to be shown affection.
Love is not just linked to two people of the opposite sex as is often believed.
Loving others is also about maintaining healthy relationships and filling a void in them.
How to love yourself?
Learning to love yourself begins with discovering your current situation in relation to all of the above.
If after going through it you don’t see a need to fill, then you know how to have confidence in yourself and you know how to appreciate yourself.
But if you find that your life is not fully in line with what is described, then here are our great tips to help you love yourself.
Focus your energies on loving yourself
Love is capable of anything.
If you learn to discover the strength in love, you will never again let someone make you think you are worthless.
Love is innate in every human being.
You just need to wake it up and develop it for yourself before hoping others will return it to you.
The more you love yourself, the more self-esteem you have for yourself will grow.
The better you cultivate love, the more you will have to give to others and lift them up.
Speak good words about yourself
Language is a power which can build as well as destroy.
Very few people are aware of this.
You have to start saying the beautiful things to yourself that you deserve to hear.
Celebrate your beauty, love your imperfections, character flaws, etc.
Take stock of the bad words that have been said about you and start saying the opposite.
The opinions of others cannot define you in any way.
You have to rebuild your personality in order to improve your self-confidence.
Work on yourself
Once you have learned to identify your flaws and imperfections, it is up to you to work on them.
It is not enough to accept yourself, but you must also seek to improve yourself, to increase your own worth.
There are certain faults such as anger, agitation for example which prevent personal development.
Man is like wine.
It improves over time.
You must therefore aspire to the best of yourself.
Seek to be the best version of yourself.
Learn to manage stress
Stress management is a fundamental element to take into account.
Stress is everyday.
You have to learn not to let external forces disturb your inner peace.
Being under pressure leads to mistakes.
Worse, it is the source of several evils.
You have to learn to withstand shocks and progress without it impacting you.
Learn to encourage yourself
It may sound weird, but it is very important.
You are the first and often the only person to feel discouraged.
It is important that you motivate yourself in all situations.
The others also have their concerns to be resolved.
Learn to be your own best friend.
Act as if you have to advise a friend of yours to pursue their ideals, dreams or plans.
Do what’s important to you
To love yourself is to give yourself the chance to be happy.
Do what contributes to your happiness.
Create your own life while helping others have theirs.
Don’t sacrifice your time off to get things done that will only bring you pain and grief.
Also learn to use your energies to solve your personal problems.